March goal recap

Well, March was a bust.  The first week was the week my Mom died, and everything after that has been shit.  But I will go over my results anyway. My Mom died on the 5th, the first Monday, it's the week before that is gone from my memory.  I can remember the week of clearly, but things are pretty fuzzy before that.  I actually met 2 new clients at the end of February and have no memory of meeting them at all.  I met with them again last week and this week and they both remember me, but I have no memory of them.  One of them even asked me how my son's girlfriend was, I don't remember talking to him about it. 
Goal 1: getting outside (hiking) . . . In March I will save $20 towards hiking gear.  Nope, didn't happen.  Didn't even remember I had written this. 

Goal 2: yoga . . . In March I will do some sort of stretching 3 days a week for at least 10 min. and one week of 4 days.I am also going to schedule a massage somewhere.  I did not do this.  I think I accomplished stretching 2 times most weeks.  But there was no massage scheduled anywhere.

Goal 3: PR half and full marathons . . . I will run at least 3 times a week and with a day of speed work. I did not run 3 times a week with speed work.  I think I ran 3 times a week, but no speed work at all. Ice and roll 3 times a week.  I also did not ice and roll at all.

Goal 4: healthy eating . . . I will eat a salad 2 times a week, cut back my afternoon coffee to 2 times a week.  Wine on weekends and one day in the middle of the week. Um, no.  Just no.  I don't know what I ate, it was a lot of fast food the first week of March.  Coffee, well, probably 3 or 4 times a week.  And don't even get me started on the wine.  I've had a lot of wine.

Ocean Shores

My sister, Tami, lives in N. Carolina, she was at my parent's house until last Sunday when she went home. This last week was the first week my dad was alone at his house since my mom died ( I have a hard time saying the polite word, passed, I feel like saying she died is more blunt, and I need to hear that in my own head to completely wrap my head around the fact that she's gone).

Anyway, we thought at least one of us should be there for my dad this last weekend, and I was going to go. However, on Thursday my dad decided he needed to get away and invite my other 2 sisters and me to go to Ocean Shores with him. So off we went.

I had to take Maddox because I had no one to watch him on Saturday, so it was the 5 of us.

This trip was the first step in healing ( if that's possible) and moving forward without one of the most important people in our family unit.  I don't have a lot to say about the trip, so I guess I'll just put up the pictures. 

 The first morning we were there I walked out to the beach to watch the sunrise (well, the sun rose behind me, but the sky was beautiful over the ocean in front of me).  While I was standing there, 2 eagles flew right over my head. 

 My Mom loved to geocache.  If you don't know what it is, it's like an adult version of a treasure hunt.  People put out tokens (or coin) in caches, and then you go find them. If you find one, you can register that you found it.  You can also take them out and put them in a different cache.  They also have traveling tokens (I know I'm not using the right words), that's where someone puts on in a cache with the intent on it getting to a specific destination.  My dad sent one to my sister in N. Carolina once.  In fact, my dad put one in my Mom's coffin, he had the coin number on the memorial "brochure" for the people from their local geocaching group that came to the funeral. 

Anyway, my dad made 3 tokens out of some bath toys that were whales, my Mom loved whales.  My sister in N. Carolina took one and put it in a cache there, my dad put one in a cache in eastern WA and then we went looking for a cache in Ocean Shores to put the third one in.

 While we were eating lunch we noticed some tshirts around the pizza place for a fun run.  We asked when it was and we were told it was the next day . . . and we were there during packet pickup.  So I registered for the 10K.  =) 

 We spend some time on the beach.  Maddox bought this moose hat a month or so ago for the school's Dr. Seuss week.  Maddox loves it.  He also spent a lot of time digging in the sand.  It started out as a treasure hunt, then he was a dog, then he started putting "treasure" in the holes he was digging (rocks or shells).  He did it so much I was surprised his fingers weren't raw the next day. 

 We went to Sharkey's (a store) to see what it was about.  The store wasn't really cool, but the door outside was pretty cool.

My Dad

Maddox

 We spent quite a long time at the beach at sunset on Saturday evening.  There were a lot of tears.  And a lot of silent moments. 

 After the sunset we came back to the hotel and there were some deer behind the hotel.  The baby deer got pretty close to Maddox, but when it realized Maddox didn't have any food it ran away. 

 My family was nice enough to wait to check out of the hotel until after I ran my race.  My dad went to the start of the race with me while my sisters packed the hotel up.  The first half of the race was on a street paralleling the beach and the second half was along the beach.  I was a little worried about the sand, but in Washington you're allowed to drive on the beach (which I'm not a fan of), so with that and the off and on rain all weekend the sand was pretty packed and it was super easy to run on.  In fact I ran the second half faster than the first half. 

Overall, the weekend was good. 

Nothing

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I don't know if I've talked about my extended family much (parents and sisters), but we have always been a very close family.  My brother-in-law thinks it's very weird but that is how we are.  And I have been especially close to my Mom since I became a "responsible" adult (not just adult, but responsible).  Her death was so unexpected and quick that it has caught us all off guard. 

and I find myself crying at random times.  This week has been harder than last week.  The week of her death was the worst, by the way.  She died on a Monday.  March 5th.

We made big collages for her funeral of her and other people.  And while going through my pictures, I realized I have no pictures of just her and I.  The most recent picture I have of her and I, my sister is in it as well.

From March 6, 2015

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Obituary of Shirley Pence

Shirley Maurine Pence, was born Aug 12, 1947 In Bellingham, Washington to Ernest and Maurine Curl.  She attended nursing school in Wenatchee where she met the love of her life, Tom Pence. After marrying they eventually moved onto the Pence family farm south of Lind.  Shirley passed away with all of her family at her side Monday evening March 5, 2018 at the young age of 70.   Shirley was a strong leader in the Connell Church of the Nazarene, always willing to help wherever needed.  She was a very social person, always able to strike up a friendly conversation with anyone.  She has touched many lives in her lifetime and will be remembered by her love.  

 

She is survived by her husband, Tom Pence, 4 daughters Barbara Pence of Hatton, WA, Nancy Curl (Scott) of Lynnwood, WA, Cathy Wheatcroft (Chris) of Mt. Vernon, WA, and Tami Davis (Philip) of New Bern, NC, as well as 6 grandchildren, Matthew and Kaylee (Hatton), Josh (Lynnwood), Damian and Maddox (Mt. Vernon) and A.J. (New Bern), and her brother Robert Curl of Nampa, ID.  

 

Visitation will be held at Danekas Funeral Home in Ritzville from 12 Noon to 7 PM Friday March 9, 2018. The funeral will be held at the Connell Nazarene Church on Saturday, March 10, 2018 at 10 am with the internment flowing at the Lind Cemetery. Condolences may be left at www.danekasfh.com

March goals

😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡I don't know that I'm going to change my goals much this month.  They seem to be working well, but I'm still struggling with a few minor things. The hiking goal is hard when it's so cold and yucky outside.  I feel like I should be doing something, but I don't know what.  I wish I had more money so that the goal could center around buying hiking gear.  Maybe I should work on that. 

Goal 1: getting outside (hiking) . . . In March I will save $20 towards hiking gear.  That is such a small amount, but really I don't know with our current situation if I can do more than that.  If I can I will.  And I will keep my eyes peeled for an opportunity to go hiking with Damian. 

Goal 2: yoga . . . In March I will do some sort of stretching 3 days a week for at least 10 min. and one week of 4 days.
This is working well.  In February I even had a week of 4 days of stretching, so I'm going to add that as part of my goal.  My leg, hip, and knee are all doing so much better with now 2 months of consistent stretching.  I need to renew my last months massage goal and actually complete it, so  I am also going to schedule a massage somewhere.  I first need to find somewhere that will take my insurance.  Maybe I need to call places in Everett where I work. 

Goal 3: PR half and full marathons . . . I will run at least 3 times a week and with a day of speed work.
I am currently trying to prevent plantar faciitis from getting worse, so I don't feel like I can increase my running at this time.  However, I do believe I need to start rolling and icing my foot religiously (right now I'm average once a week on really bad days).  So . . . ice and roll 3 times a week.

Goal 4: healthy eating . . . I will eat a salad 2 times a week, cut back my afternoon coffee to 2 times a week.  Wine on weekends and one day in the middle of the week.
I'm keeping this one.  Maybe I need to change this one up, this will be the 3rd month I've had the same goal (although in February I added the wine component).  This particular goal is to help me lose weight, and I am not losing weight.  My weigh ins this month were consistently in the same range, even a little high one week.  However, my belt was tightened today, but then it was tightened a month ago and then loosened again.  Maybe next month I change it to staying in my calorie range 5 of 7 days (although I'm not usually out of my calorie range, and when I am, not far).

Speaking of calorie range . . . myfitnesspal . . . I had a streak of 868 days.  That is 2 years, 4 months, and 10 days.  And I missed a day.  Just completely forgot.  How do I completely forget after 2 years, 4 months, and 10 days??  I don't know, but I did.  And I was furious.  Mad.  Angry.  Frustrated.  Annoyed. Sad. Very sad. Disappointed.

And as of today I'm on day 5.